Needs – Daniell Koepke

I have been wondering for a while whether to post this quote on my blog or not.  They aren’t my words. They belong to someone I’ve never met. Yet this person seems to know me in ways I’ve never shared.  What’s the fear of putting them out there? Hearing the response.


“Your needs don’t make you too much. They don’t make you selfish or weak or greedy. They make you human. We all have needs. And those hungers aren’t something we should feel ashamed of. They’re normal, we didn’t get enough of them as children hungers. Affections we’ve been deprived of by the people who are supposed to care for us. Connections we needed to feel whole and spaces we needed to feel safe. Cravings we’ve been taught we didn’t deserve. Appetites we’ve learned to suppress and fill with guilt.  [People showing us that we are not worthy enough of their time, their love and their connection.] Again and again we’ve neglected our needs because we’ve been taught that they were too much— that we were too much. But we don’t have to any longer. You don’t have to. Whether you need support, alone time, affection, connection, validation, or reassurance that you are loved — it is more than okay to ask for what you need. Making your needs known isn’t about being demanding or selfish. It’s about self-care. It’s about creating a safer space for yourself. It’s about using your voice and speaking your truth. It’s about giving yourself permission to take up space. It’s about listening to your hungers and honoring them. It’s about honoring yourself.”

Daniell Koepke

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2 Responses to Needs – Daniell Koepke

  1. Ron Smith says:

    Thank you for sharing this. I want to wish you a very Merry Christmas and I hope that you have a Happy and Peaceful New Year. Take care.

  2. Carol T. Evers says:

    Praying that some of these “needs” continue to be met; hoping that 2014 will bring MANY blessings to you, as you bring to so MANY in your role as Trama Chaplain!!! Blessings and love,

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